A rare hero in the rape arena

Having co-written an article on rape for the upcoming edition of Liberti, I was intrigued when I saw a BBC programme entitled The rape surgeon of DR Congo on iPlayer. The short film describes a country where women are not just raped for sexual gratification, but as a weapon of war. It was harrowing to say the least.

Gynaecologist Denis Mukwege is based in Congo and has literally risked life and limb to restore hope and bring physical healing to victims of rape in the country. “It was that year [1999] that our first rape victim was brought into the hospital. After being raped, bullets had been fired into her genitals and thighs,” Dr Mukwege recalls.

“I thought that was a barbaric act of war, but the real shock came three months later. Forty-five women came to us with the same story, they were all saying: ‘People came into my village and raped me, tortured me.’”

Since then, he and his colleagues have treated around 30,000 rape victims in DR Congo. His hospital, which has been destroyed more than once, provides around 350 beds, which are nearly full most of the time.

The sheer volume of victims crossing his threshold caused Dr Mukwege to think about what was happening: “These weren't just violent acts of war, but part of a strategy. You had situations where multiple people were raped at the same time, publicly; a whole village might be raped during the night. In doing this, they hurt not just the victims but the whole community, which they force to watch.

“The result of this strategy is that people are forced to flee their villages, abandon their fields, their resources, everything. It's very effective.”

Although there is no obvious way for him to put an end to the barbaric practice, he and his team take time to carry out psychological examinations on every victim and treat them accordingly. Operations are performed and long-term care is given where it is needed.

Thanks to funding from Unicef and other aid agencies, the care is free; an imperative seeing as some of the women turn up without even any clothes. They are fed, clothed and cared for, and are not discharged until they are properly back on their feet. Many are also offered legal support and advice.

No, not a bit of it. In fact, he was forced to flee his own home in 2011 after being held at gunpoint by five men and seeing one of his guards shot dead in front of him. It was a miracle he survived the gunfire that ensued, and that the men left with his car and nothing else. His daughters had also been threatened by the armed men, who had broken into the family home, but were unharmed.

He and the family fled to Europe but he recently returned to his homeland at the request of a group of local women who are campaigning against these atrocities and putting their lives on the line in the process. Earning practically nothing themselves, they managed to save enough to fly Dr Mukwege back to Congo and have been offering him round-the-clock protection ever since.

The women welcomed him back to the country as if he were the greatest hero of their time… and he just might be.

It inspired me to hear that one man has risked so much to help the many women who have suffered this terrible crime and, ultimately, to join with these female campaigners in working to put an end to the horrific ‘war tactic’ once and for all.

Let’s pray for his continued safety and for peace in Congo; for healing for the women who have been damaged physically and psychologically; and that justice will catch up with the perpetrators of this evil. 

Read more from Joy in the next issue of Liberti.

What’s healthier than a box of chocolates and lasts longer than a bunch of daffodils?

A bumper box of Liberti magazines, of course. We may be a little biased, but 50 copies of the UK’s best women’s magazine for just £50 is too good an offer to turn down. Especially when you know a single copy normally costs £3!

Two major events are on the horizon – Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day – and both require us to be loving; but not necessarily in the conventional way…

Maybe you know a bunch of single women who feel neglected every February 14 or a group of mums at a toddler group who would love an extra gift come March 10.

Maybe you host a ladies’ book club? Or the women you work with have become disillusioned with the ‘get thinner, be more beautiful’ magazines they normally read.

Perhaps you are hosting a Valentine’s meal and want your female guests to take something home with them. Or you’d like to hand out a copy to every woman in your church on Mother’s Day…

Whatever you’re involved in, this is a great opportunity to bless the women in your life. And if you don’t know 50 women, hand them out to some you don’t know and you’ll soon extend your friendship group!

Personally, I’m not the romantic type, but I love the idea of dishing out copies of the mag to 50 of the women in my life. The best part is, Liberti makes a great gift for young women and the slightly mature; for the single and the attached; for mothers and potential mothers.

Articles in the latest edition include:

I’ll have a pee please, Bob An interesting take on the Toilet Twinning initiative.

Hands up for Tanzania! A really insightful piece on the work of Five Talents in Tanzania and beyond.

What’s so special about Justin Bieber’s mum? An article about Pattie Mallette, who is far more than just the mother of a teen sensation.

A week in the life of a social entrepreneur A glimpse into the life of Anne-Marie Wilson, who is passionate about ending female genital mutilation.

Swapping her Manolos for flip flops The tale of former fashion editor Charlie Davies, whose new designer label is helping those in need.

Plus you'll find all the regular columnists and the latest on entertainment, fashion, health, movies and sex.

Click here to order your bumper pack today!

(PS - you can still buy chocs and daffs - they make an excellent accompaniment to a copy of the mag!)

What IF?

A number of charities including Action Aid, CAFOD, Christian Aid, Oxfam, Tearfund, Save the Children and Unicef, launched the Enough Food for Everyone IF campaign on January 22.

The campaign video was animated by my buddy James Munro, so if you can’t be bothered reading the rest of this blog, at least watch his excellent handiwork here.

What’s it all about?

Well, here’s what campaign organisers have to say about #IF...

Nearly one billion people go to bed hungry every night and two million children die from malnutrition every year. We've made progress in other areas, but hunger is still the great scandal of our age. All around the world, even in the UK, people are struggling to feed their families.

In 2013, the government has promised to provide 0.7% of national income for aid and to host a Hunger Summit. We must make sure they keep these promises. In June, the world’s most powerful leaders will meet in the UK at the G8.

This is our best opportunity to tackle hunger. We must make IF happen.

Reading this makes me want to do something. How can we sit around stuffing our faces when we know two million children are DYING each year from malnutrition each year?

Imagine you had nothing to feed your children! Imagine even going one day without food yourself!

The campaign is split into four segments covering aid, land, tax and transparency; urging the government to keep its promises and step up to the plate on eradicating hunger. As president of G8 this year, the UK has a key role in bringing about the changes needed to stop people suffering from, and dying of, hunger.

What can you do?

1. Join the campaign here.
2. Share the message. Post the campaign video to your Facebook or Twitter account and get 
people talking about it.
3. Take note of upcoming events here.
4. Buy Fairtrade food and only buy what you will eat!
5. If you are aged 18-25, get along to one of the youth meals Christian Aid Collective is hosting. Not only will you get a free dinner, you’ll join the debate about eradicating global poverty. They’re happening imminently so check dates here!

Read more from Joy in the next issue of Liberti magazine.

Keep your bathroom clean!

I couldn't think what to blog on when I sat down to write this morning, so I cleaned the bathroom instead. And in doing so, I found the perfect topic to cover. Because to me, cleaning the bathroom and the Christian walk have a lot in common.

I don’t know about you, but I put off cleaning the bathroom. I tell myself I’ll ‘do it tomorrow’; that old chestnut. The more gunk that builds up, the less I want to clean it and the more unpleasant each shower or toilet visit becomes.

A similar thing can happen in our lives. Often when we let sin and worry take over, we inadvertently shut God out of our lives. If we don’t deal with it quickly, the effects can build up and make us feel as though He is far away. This becomes a cycle, because we now feel it will be more difficult to put things right.

So here are a few pointers to encourage and motivate you, both to keep your bathroom clean and to examine any unwanted ‘build-up’ in your heart.

1)    The process is often messy, but the results are satisfying. I can’t pretend I enjoy pulling clumps of hair out of the plug hole or scrubbing the toilet bowl, but when you’re done and you survey your handiwork, there’s a real sense of achievement. Likewise, facing up to the things in your life that you’d rather not have to deal with can be unpleasant, and even painful. But when you allow God to cleanse you of anger, unforgiveness or whatever else is clogging up your heart, the relief is palpable.

"These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).

2)    The more frequently you do it, the easier it becomes. If you don’t clean your bathroom for six months, you’re in for some serious grossness! Dirt and dust soon pile up and you’ll scrub for hours just to see what colour your bathroom suite once was if you don’t clean it regularly. Likewise, failure to deal with our issues promptly tends to lead us into further difficulties and away from the help God is offering us. Deal with sin straight away and keep a short account with God – He will wipe the slate clean every day if you ask him to. And please clean your bathroom more than biannually!

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

3)    The cleaner it is, the more it will bless others. Have you ever been to someone’s house and found their bathroom to be dirty, lacking in soap and abundant in odours? Public toilets, of course, are the worst offenders. Cleaning your bathroom may seem like a thankless task (your family will never notice), but guests you invite round will notice you’ve made an effort. In the same way, staying close to God will bless the people around you because you are able to demonstrate His love without any obstacles getting in the way. The Bible says that when we walk in the Spirit, we bear fruit. Fruit isn’t meant to be eaten by us (have you ever seen a tree eat its fruit?); it’s there to be enjoyed by others.

“Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me” (John 15:4).

4)    Deep cleaning reveals dirt we’re not even aware of. We can all see the obvious dirt that collects in a bathroom, but you might not immediately see the mould in the corner behind the bin or the dirt that collects between the toilet seat and seat cover (isn’t that the most irritating thing to clean?!). Similarly, when we start to put things right with God, He reveals things that are harbouring in the recesses of our hearts; things we thought we had dealt with or didn’t realise were there in the first place. Be encouraged that the Holy Spirit can reach even the most difficult nooks and crannies of our hearts, leaving us spotlessly clean and ready to bask in God’s presence.

“Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful” (Hebrews 10:22-23).

5)    The right resources can make all the difference. Cleaning your bathroom with a dirty, moth-eaten sponge is going to lengthen the process at best, and lead to a botch job at worst. Investing in a few bits and bobs, for example a mildew-removing spray and a decent mop, can make light work of it. As Christians, there are thousands of resources out there. The first of course is the Bible, so if you don’t have one, get one – and read it every day. It’s also worth getting hold of some decent books/DVDs/podcasts to inspire, challenge and encourage you in your Christian walk. If you don’t know where to start, ask someone you trust to recommend a few.

Finally, remember how beautiful it feels to have a shower in a freshly cleaned bathroom? That’s how we can feel spiritually every day when we walk closely with God. Jesus has already paid for our sins and our sickness, so we are free to live a free and fulfilled life each and every day. Don’t put it off!

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly” (John 10:10). 

Read more from Joy in the upcoming issue of Liberti magazine.

New Year, new you!

It’s coming to that time of year where the turkey has been gobble gobbled and the last of the mince pies has been scoffed. Delicious as they were, we’re all starting to loosen our belts a bit and lose the odd button.

So as New Year approaches, many of us will be detoxing and – horror of horrors – debating a return to the gym. And what’s wrong so with that?

Well, nothing really. Sensible dieting and exercise are good for us all, whether we’re in shape or not. But what happens when losing weight becomes an unhealthy obsession? With many people already suffering from eating disorders in the UK, the pressure to lose weight can prove too heavy a burden for some.

Thinking along these lines, Women and Equalities minister Jo Swinson has written an open letter to magazine editors asking them not to promote post-Christmas ‘miracle’ diets. Pre-empting the avalanche of fad diets that surface at this time of year, she encouraged publications – including women’s magazines – to "celebrate the beauty of diversity in body shape, skin colour, size and age" instead.

Co-founder of the Campaign for Body Confidence, Ms Swinson suggests “fad diets and fitness myths” can promote unhealthy body image and be harmful to dieters’ physical and mental health.

"I am sure that you want to promote a healthy lifestyle for your readers but at this time of year in particular far too much of magazine coverage tends to focus on irresponsible, short-term solutions and encourages readers to jump on fad diet bandwagons,” she writes in the letter.

"As editors you owe more to your readers than the reckless promotion of unhealthy solutions to losing weight.

"If your aim is to give practical, sensible advice about losing weight – and not how to drop a stone in five days – you should encourage reasonable expectations, instead of dangerous ones, along with exercise and healthy eating."

The editorial team at Liberti magazine takes this very seriously. Every issue contains nutritional and fitness advice because this is something our readers have asked for. However, our experts always focus on the positives – which foods you should eat to achieve a more balanced diet, and the types of exercise that would work best for you, for example. If you’re looking for motivation to shift a few pounds, I’d definitely advise you to check it out (and that’s not just because I work for the mag!).

But more than that, Liberti encourages women to enjoy a lifestyle that is positive all round, not just looking at the physical, but fully embracing life and all that it has to offer. Our team of writers discuss ways to develop emotionally and spiritually, as well as looking at tons of ways to reach out to people in our communities and across the globe.

If you’re looking to make some changes this New Year, forget the fad diets and the punishing exercise regimes and get Liberated! January needn’t be a time of bleakness and giving things up; it’s about establishing what our purpose in life is and pursuing this purpose with great gusto.

Wishing you a very happy New Year from all of us at Liberti xxx 

Fantasy versus reality

Working from home certainly has its perks. One of the greatest, in my opinion, is the option to watch cheesy Christmas films as I tap away on my laptop. Needless to say, Christmas 24 has been on every day for the last month or so in the Tibbs household; I just can’t get enough of it.

Having watched most of the films now (some of them twice), I’m beginning to notice a certain pattern. At the start, a child is let down by his or her parents and/or Santa and grows up to be a grumpy, workaholic scrooge. He or she has no time for love or adventure and very often neglects his/her own kids as a result.

But just when you’re starting to give up all hope, some magical intervention occurs, Santa is proven to be real (as if we ever doubted it) and, more often than not, a happy-ever-after love story ensues.

I’m not knocking this formula; it works a treat. In fact, I can almost predict to the minute when I will be reduced to tears, the moments where I will have to watch through my fingers because the cringe factor is so high, and the moment when I will need to clear my throat for the final carol-singing scene.

But in many ways, this repeated narrative reflects real life. Many children are scarred by the actions of a parent or someone in authority who has hurt them or let them down. They carry this pain through their lives and into new relationships, eventually passing it onto their children.

Others embrace the idea of God during childhood, seeing Him as a magical, Santa-like being who gives us all the things we want and meets all of our needs. But by the time we reach double figures we have rejected Him because – like Santa – we feel we have outgrown Him… and that He isn’t all He’s cracked up to be anyway.

As we approach Christmas, I hope we’re all excited about the parties, presents and delicious food. But I also hope it’s a time where we can rebuild relationships that have broken down and spend quality time with the people we love.

My greatest hope, though, is that we can focus on the relationship we have with God. At this time of year we remember that He sent His only Son to earth to live among us, and ultimately to die in order to bring us back into relationship with Him. 

Unlike Santa, who only pops up once a year, God will walk with us every day of our lives if we are just prepared to take the first step. And, unlike Santa, if you ask Him to prove that He’s real, He’ll actually do it. 

He is the very epitome of happily ever after love without the Hollywood cheese factor.

Anyway, it’s almost time for Annie Claus is Coming to Town, so I’ll bid you adieu. Or perhaps Merry Christmas would be more appropriate!

Read more from Joy in the next issue of Liberti magazine - out soon!

One thing I’ve learnt from the Leveson Inquiry

Today I watched the live coverage of Lord Justice Leveson as he published his long-awaited report on the press.

In his speech he pointed out that the investigation started with the hacking of Milly Dowler's voicemail and expanded to cover politicians, the press and the police. 

There isn't one guilty party here; large sections of the industry and many outside it have been tarnished by this scandal. And Lord Leveson claimed those who had broken the rules had “wreaked havoc" on the lives of innocent people.

Sometimes in life we cut corners or engage in practices that are the norm at the time; often we just go along with things without thinking about the consequences. I'm not saying I've ever hacked the phone of a missing child, but sometimes just by staying silent we propagate certain behaviours.

Remember the MPs expenses scandal, for example. I imagine it was initially a case of someone buying a spot of lunch for a friend on their expenses rather than forking out for it themselves. Who’s to ever know? Others followed suit. It’s what everyone does, so why shouldn't I? Still others kept quiet about it; not actually doing it themselves but keeping schtum to protect those that did. Before long people were putting up duck houses and building moats around their houses.

A more sinister example is the Jimmy Savile scandal. It is now thought as many as 300 people were sexually abused by the former TV presenter; including victims as young as eight. Obviously, Savile's behaviour is reprehensible, that needs no discussion. But what of those who knew what was going on and facilitated it or even got involved themselves? We’ll probably never know just how sordid the whole situation was.

It might just be a small thing to start off with: an employee ‘borrowing’ stationary and eventually embezzling company funds; harassment of a colleague that results in a nervous breakdown or suicide attempt; or a friend’s casual interest in hardcore pornography that draws them into a situation where domestic violence occurs. 

I can't help thinking it would be better to make a stand before things got out of hand. Think Winterbourne View, Baby P and the Shannon Matthews case; why were these situations allowed to take place? Because no one stepped in and said: “Enough is enough.”

I guess what I'm trying to say is that we have a responsibility to do things the right way: to avoid shortcuts and unlawful practices; to stand up against endemic actions and behaviours that we consider to be wrong; and to be prepared to ‘go public’ (by telling the relevant party) as soon as a dangerous pattern appears to be emerging.

Unlike those involved in the phone hacking scandal, we may not be hauled up in front of a panel to explain our actions (or inaction), but I believe that one day we will all have to give an account.

Romans 14:12 says: “So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God”, and 1 Corinthians 4:5 says: “Therefore do not pronounce judgment before the time, before the Lord comes, who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart.”

You might think that what you’re doing isn't hurting anyone, or that it is insignificant. But whether you’re the ringleader or you’re simply turning a blind eye, it’s time to get serious. Let’s get a handle on the scandal before it even becomes one.

PS I'm really glad the News of the World has finally gone.

Read more from Joy in the next issue of Liberti magazine.